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I came across the term “sexual polarity” recently. The idea is obviously rooted in the differences between masculine and feminine traits. I suspect as an idea it’s been around as long as we have been around. I have a vague memory of early feminists in the late 19th century using the term, so it was not something exclusively thought about by men. The piece I was reading was about the difficulty of making contact between the sexes; i.e., many women feel that single men in a social setting are only out for one thing and many men feel that society has become so skewed to make them into second class citizens. One of our basic drives is to find someone and have a family. It’s always been difficult. Think about all of the songs you heard about relationships going both good and bad. That’s an expression of the difficulty of finding someone. The “me too” movement has complicated the search. I heard a young man say that he would never approach a woman even if he was interested in her in any kind of public setting! He told me he relies on dating apps because then he knows the woman is open to being approached. It’s simply too dangerous to talk to any woman he didn’t know in public was his feeling. It’s been many years since I was part of the dating scene. However, once I got over teenage shyness, I had no fear of approaching a woman who seemed interesting. The young man I spoke to didn’t want to be labeled a “predator,” thus in a public or private setting, he would never approach a woman who seemed interesting. There are predators out there. Harvey Weinstein and Dr. Larry Nassar are prime examples. On the other hand, they are far far in the minority. As I said earlier, I am far from the dating scene but I didn’t want to sleep with every woman I met. From my discussions with other men, they had similar feelings. I feel sorry for both men and women out there in the dating scene because we have made it even more complicated to find someone. Perhaps, the young man solution of using dating apps is in at least part a solution?