Last week’s post, “Sexuality and Disability,” brought one outraged email. I have reread the email many times. In the part I understand, it essentially accuses me of being too detailed about a sex act. I didn’t think I did. The closest I came was the sentence – “I can obviously answer my partner’s urges.” The only thing I can think of is that the author of the email imagination took over for her and provided her with details I didn’t. In another part, it accuses me of “exposing your dirty disability.” I understand that people do not want to read about disabilities. I’ve always thought it was because they realize they could become disabled in an instant. It’s not a pleasant thought.
I have always tried to be upfront about my disability, but I don’t dwell on it in these posts. It’s just a fact of life for me, like losing hair as I age. I think the thing that truly set her off was sexuality combined with disability. It’s a little like knowing your parents have had sex because you’re here, but you don’t want to know anything more about it.
