“We accept the love we think we deserve.” Stephen Chbosky wrote this. I stumbled across this quotation, looking for something else. In my current writing project, I have several people who are unattached. They tell themselves they are without love for various reasons. One believes that he hasn’t found the right person. Another believes that her chances of being loved are zero because of the life she leads. These thoughts are also true in the real world. I can think of people I know who are divorced and believe they’ll never find another husband or wife. They tell me they believe that because of the messy ending on their first marriage or they don’t have what it takes to keep a mate from straying that they are doomed never to marry again.
Do you have friends who, for one reason or another, feel they will never find a lasting relationship? What ideas do they have for that feeling? Do you think this short saying, “We accept the love we think we deserve,” describes their dilemma? I believe everyone deserves to find love. Why then must we feel we “deserve” that love to accept it? Perhaps, you don’t agree with Mr. Chbosky, and we should take any love that comes our way.
Whatever your feelings are about the saying, “We accept the love we think we deserve,” I invite your comments below.
