I wrote a scene this week about a couple of friends, friends with benefits (FWB) as they say. It was something I had never done before. With a couple who are romantically linked, it is not necessary to provide details of their intimacy because the reader will understand their love for each other. Friends with benefits caught me off guard. As friends, they will try their best to provide the best sex they can – how far do you go with details? After intercourse, the mood is different than between people who are romantically linked. Neither one wants the other to think there’s no more than just friendship. What did they say to each other? When I realized those two facts, I had to rewrite the scene several times. In fact, I’m still thinking about ways that I could improve it. Because they are friends, they care about the other person. Yet, there is a hesitancy to say anything that might be considered romantic. On the other hand, they don’t want the other to think they are merely using them.
If you ever had a friend with benefits, how did you know what to say and what not to say? What you do, and what not did you do? You may not want your thoughts to be public, so use the “Contact Me” link at the top of this page. That reaches me by email, and no one else would see it. If you feel comfortable, you can use the “Leave a reply” link at the bottom of this page. I’ll thank you in advance for your comments.
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I always think of the movie “when harry met sally” when I think of friends with benefits. I have to say I never had those friends either. Mostly because I didn’t believe in them. Emotions always creep in. I think “FWB” is just an excuse not to commit. This will be interesting how you tackle it.